Tuesday, March 22, 2011

Hello? Do you hear me up the Hill?!

So I decided to take Zach to Washington DC for our first Childhood Cancer Awareness and Advocacy Day last week.  Boy did I underestimate what I was in for.  First off I was completely caught off guard with my emotions when I arrived at the information session on Wednesday.  For some reason I thought the group of parents participating would have their kids with them - I was wrong. 

Our family seemed to be in the minority because Zach had survived his battle with cancer.  Good thing I had packed my tissues, because after listening to several speakers talk about their kids who had passed and why they were doing what they do now, it was tough to hear.  Then I thought about what a wuss I was sitting there crying when I still had my kid 3 doors down playing with the 1 or 2 other small survivors that had come to DC.  It was time for me to suck it up and pay attention to the detailed statistics the speakers were telling us. 

Stats such as pediatric cancer research being considered a "discretionary program".  Say what?  Since when did finding a cure for cancer become optional?  Maybe if their kids had cancer they would see it differently - but that isn't something I'd wish on my worst enemy(if I had one). 

We reviewed 4 main reasons as to why we were in Washington:  1.  To ask our Senators and Congressional members to maintain funding or fiscal year 2011 and to increase funding in 2012.  We asked this because each year 13,500 kids are told they have cancer and more than 40,000 kids undergo treatment for cancer each year.  There are more scary facts that we laid out to our representatives too.  The impact of not maintaining for 2011 and increasing for 2012 is that kids with cancer will not have the best treatment options and will suffer from the lack of research.

2.  For our Congress members to join the Congressional Pediatric Cancer Caucus and be a Congressional champion for legislation benefiting children with cancer.  All Congressional members need to be part of this caucus since it is bipartisan, creates awareness and educates our members.  If we as parents to a child with cancer didn't know this information, how do we expect Congress to - unless we tell them?

3.  We need Congress to cosponsor the Creating Hope Act to encourage drug development for pediatric cancers and other rare pediatric diseases.  This legislation has bipartisan support and does not require an appropriation.  This Act was introduced the morning we hit Capital Hill and there was no better timing.  This Act doesn't require any money from taxpayers - at all!  What it does do is generate market incentive for drug development through a "golden ticket" - a priority review voucher for pediatric rare diseases.  Under this program, a company that develops a drug for pediatric cancer and receives FDA approval for that drug also receives a voucher.  That voucher comes with rights to a faster FDA approval for any other drug (like another heartburn or allergy medication), which results in the drug getting to market 4 months earlier.  These vouchers are worth hundreds of millions of dollars...I think that may be the incentive these drug companies need to help our kids.  Whatever works people!  I happen to think this is an ingenious idea and wish I'd thought of it myself.

4.  We also asked for Congress to cosponsor and adopt the "Childhood Survivorship Research and Quality of Life Act" formerly HR2109, which is scheduled to be re-introduced later this year.  This one is a biggie because now that Zach has survived childhood cancer, he faces many late side effects.  3 out of 5 kids who survive cancer suffer horrible late effects such as secondary cancers, muscular difficulties, infertility, heart failure, kidney damage, hearing loss, memory loss, permanent low immune systems, develop autoimmune diseases and a host of many, many more.  As a direct result of research done up to this point, we've got loads of kids surviving each day.  This means we need research done to help the survivors.  Right now we're at a standstill - I've survived cancer...now what?  We need to figure out "what" and allow our kids to grow old and change our diapers when we're as old as...I don't want to think about what that age might be. 

Thursday morning came and as I found myself to be nervous...no time for that - got to get my big girl panties on and get this show on the road!  We rush to get to the hotel in time to make the shuttle (which we make only by seconds and have to ask them to hold it while I go park and run through the parking garage like a mad woman with an empty stroller.  Zach and Mama got put out on the curb so they wouldn't break a sweat.)  We arrive at Capitol Hill and start our hike to the first meeting of the day.  We heard a 12 year old boy do a speech about how he survived cancer 2 years earlier and was here to help us sway our Representatives to see our point of view.  This kid was amazing.  No other words.


We move on to our first Senator meeting with Richard Burr's office.  This meeting was so weird.  It didn't really seem to have a 'start'.  The aid we met with, Jennifer Nardi, met us and just sort of looked at me to begin...and I choked.  Had no idea where to start.  Where was that lady in our group who said she'd start and end for us in the meetings?????  She was late, that's where she was.  I managed to get through a jumbled start and thankfully another set of parents picked up the message for me and we were able to get all our points on the table.  I got the impression Jennifer Nardi was not interested in our group or our message.  However, we made her sit there and listen anyway.  The other family in the pic is Christy Griffith, Eve and husband Matt.  You should really check out Christy's blog, Eve VS Wilms - it's crazy good.  Eve had a different cancer and was treated with the same chemo drugs as Zach, as was a older survivor of leukemia (29 years survived!)...see the need for more research yet? 

Then we were off to a good lunch of chicken strips, fries and cheese pizza.  Those were some good chicken strips - worth all that walking back and forth all day!  We went to Congressman G.K.Butterfield next and met with his aid, Meredith Morgan.  She was full of energy and I felt like we really had her attention in this meeting.  She took notes and even asked questions we were able to answer.  Made me feel a bit smarter up on the Hill.  *Update*  Meredith sent an email letting me know Congressman Butterfield was on our side.
'I really enjoyed meeting you all today.  Thank you for taking the time to come all the way up to DC.  

I passed the information on to Tonya, our chief of staff, regarding what we discussed and she is going to review it tonight. Also, I read your children’s stories and I am so sorry.  I can only imagine how difficult that is to go through for everyone involved. 

I know our office is behind funding the best cure for pediatric cancer.  The one piece of news I already have is that we are in support of funding NIH at the current level.  We just signed a letter today in support of funding NIH at $32 billion (the President’s proposed FY 2011 was at 32 billion but as I am sure you know ,there has been no final vote for FY2011 by congress. FY2010 for the NIG was 31 billion) .

Please know that our door is always open.'

I have since written her back reiterating our message and thanking her for the support. 

After this meeting, we had some time to kill so we took our time getting to Senator Kay Hagan's office.  I took some random pictures during this walk...
  
 What's the 1st thing you notice in this picture???  We were lucky enough to be stopped twice that day for the President coming and going down the street...whoever this guy stops wouldn't be what I call lucky.
 I really took notice of all these damn stairs around Capitol Hill...maybe it was because I had a kid in a stroller to lug around all day...what do handicapped people do here?  I finally found a ramp at one building at guess what...it lead me to the base of some steps. 
 This certainly explains a lot about people in Washington...
  Zach's new friend and partner in crime, Eve.


So we arrive at our last meeting of the day, Kay Hagan's office, and we're prepared to deliver our message to Senator Hagan...but she is a no show (she had to run home to NC).  We ended up meeting with a competent aid named, Tracy Zvenyach - who is also a nurse and had a great working knowledge of what we were talking about.  Another Mom that was there brought an email from Senator Hagan's office to attention and promptly told the aid that the letter was wrong - all the info Senator Hagan wrote about was for adult cancer - not childhood cancer.  We hope the Senator has been informed of the error and will now cosponsor our Acts so she'll be more informed in the future. 

We were very fortunate to have an adult survivor of leukemia.  She has survived 29 years and actually had been treated with the same drug Zach was, as well as Eve - and they all had different types of cancer.  She shed TONS of light on why research is needed for the survivors too.



The kids were wild by 5pm.  This poor girl looks like she was ready to make a break for it when we left!  At the end of the day I think we really made an impact on Capitol Hill - for better or worse, we made one.  I ask that each and every one of you write to your representatives and ask them to maintain the budget for the rest of this year and to increase it for next year.  We need the research.  Simple as that.  I'll update about responses I receive as they (hopefully) come in.  Thanks for your support and encouragement.  We need it!

Sunday, March 13, 2011

Long time coming...

It's been a while, but we've been busy...I FINALLY got a full time job.  And it has been a job searching for one!  I'm excited to start tomorrow and hope all goes well.  Zach, Adam and I participated in the first ever CureSearch walk in the Triangle and helped raise over $67,000!  WOOHOO!  This money will be used to fund research for all pediatric cancers and help kids all over that are seen at a Children's Oncology Group hospital (which is 90% of hospitals). 
Zach getting his hand painted.  Adam also got his painted and I got my cheek with a nice purple(neuroblastoma) and gold (childhood cancer) butterfly.
There was a balloon release that really got to me.  People who were walking in memory of a child that had passed were given white balloons to release and it was a beautiful moment for these kids.
Zach recieved his medal for being a survivor and he couldn't wait to tell the lady how old he was and his name.

Zach's name was added to the banner as a survivor, along with our friends Eve, Gwyn and Mikayla - he really loved that his name was on this too!
Then we walked.  Zach saw his pictures on a trail sign and thought that was even cooler than the banner with his name.

At the end of the day I was a proud Mama of an amazing child and survivor of the beast we know as neuroblastoma.  We went to celebrate at Adam's favorite place - Golden Corral...enough said.

This week will be a busy one too.  Zach and I are picking up Mama and heading to Captiol Hill for Childhood Cancer Awareness and Advocacy Days on Wednesday and Thursday.  We will get some training and then be let loose on the representatives of NC.  Watch out - here we come!  This is vital since they are thinking of cutting research dollars by 10%.  We need more research - not less.  This is when I wish I were in power and could do what was right and stop wondering why idiots are running our country...

We'll post an update about our big trip when we've returned home and settled down some :)

Tuesday, February 8, 2011

Signed, sealed and delivered

It's all set up.  Me, Zach and my Mom will be going to Capital Hill March 16-17 to participate in this year's Children's Cancer Awareness and Advocacy Day.  We're going straight to the horse's mouth (our elected officials) and try to get money for pediatric cancer research.  Pretty cool that we get some training and then have meetings set up with people that have the power to change things.  I'm gonna make sure Zach's voice is heard at these meetings.  His future depends on it.   

Did you know that a survivor of childhood cancer 40 years ago received the same chemo drugs that kids get now?  40 years and no change...something's gotta give people. 

We're also participating in the Triangle's first ever CureSearch Walk.  Every penny puts us one step closer to fund the trials that could lead to less harmful treatments and ultimately cures.  Put your walking shoes (or flip flops) on and come walk with us to help ensure Zach and every other kid has a healthy future.  **PS - you can sign up as a virtual walker too and help even though you can't be here in person. 
 
Event ScheduleRegistration/Check In
2/26/2011 9:00 am

Opening Ceremony and Walk
2/26/2011 10:00 am

Event Location
American Tobacco Entertainment District
Downtown Durham - Center area (1.5 mile walk)
318 Blackwell St.
Durham, NC 27701

Registration will begin at 9am, a short opening ceremony will start at 10am and then we walk (approximately 1.5 miles)...upon return we recognize teams and celebrate together.

The opening ceremony consists of two mini ceremonies - the first is a balloon release to honor those children who have lost their fight with cancer, and the second is a medal ceremony to recognize children in treatment and adults and children that are pediatric cancer survivors.

The children in treatment and survivors begin our walk by carrying a banner that says 'These Are The Reasons We Walk' with names of all the patients participating and names of individuals that teams are participating in honor of who have had childhood cancer.

In addition, every person at the walk receives a bandana representing their journey with childhood cancer.
- Kelly Green = I am a SURVIVOR or am Walking on behalf of a Survivor
- Lime Green = I am in TREATMENT or Walking on behalf of a child in treatment
- Mint Green = Walking in MEMORY of a child
- Dark Green = FRIEND or Corporate Supporter

Parking will be at any spaces near the Tobacco Campus

No pets are allowed at this venue and at the walk - per site rule

Walk Route map will be provided via email to participants and team captains. The walk will be approximately 1.5 miles and will begin in the center area of the campus buildings.

Inclimate Weather Plan - TBD - we will communicate via email to all registered participants.

Activities - the committee is organizing face painters, a DJ, and other activities for the walk.


SEE YOU THERE!

Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Grenades, playgrounds, and preschool...Oh My!

There was a time where I thought this day wouldn't happen for us.  I let the poison of cancer rob me of thinking happy thoughts of Zach growing up.  2008 was by far the worst year of my life because of this.  I had to make myself get pissed at cancer to move past all those negative thoughts.  I've had to do whatever I can do in order to make cancer just go away.  And it seems to have worked.  Zach started preschool today.  This morning the simple act of packing his first lunch made me so ridiculously happy.  I can see all sorts of amazing things in his future now and I love it.
Ta-da!  I'm at school :)


We started the weekend before by preparing for today.  Went to Target and got the coolest Scooby-do lunch box you've ever seen and some juice boxes.  Also went to the park on Sunday to enjoy the break in bad weather.  I think every other parent in Cary had the same idea.  The park was filled to the brim with kiddies and their parents.  I sat down at a picnic table to finish lunch (Wendy's!) and watch Zach.  Turns out I had sat down next to two lovely grenade moms. 

You know the type.  Perfect hair, perfect made-from-scratch lunches with everything organic.  Hmmm.  This is when I wish I had my own "grenade whistle" from the Jersey Shore cast.  Would have come in handy.  All I would have needed to do was blow it and Zach and I could have ran to another part of the park where it was safe.  I could just see this innocent little lunch going so wrong.  One mom ignored me completely - even turned her back to me in case I didn't get the picture that she wasn't interested in talking to me.  Interesting.  The other mom didn't ignore me, but I wish she had. 

She made everyone eat  grapefruit slices before they could have a cupcake.  I watched her closely to see if the kids did as she told them too...maybe I could learn something here.  The little girl spat out that grapefruit all over the other pieces and shouted that she would not eat that 'stuff'...now it's getting entertaining.  Grenade goes off!  Perfect mom proceeded to scold the girl (who wasn't her child) and launch into a extremely detailed story as to why she shouldn't spit out food on everyone else's.  Wow.  I had to stop myself from starring.  

Before she turned to me and started scolding me for starring I hustled Zach outta there, but not before finishing our not so organic fries and chicken while she watched.  I can only hope Zach isn't in the same class as these kids.  Turned out we didn't have to worry this morning.  I didn't recognize any of the kids so we're all good for now. 

We get to work on Valentine's Day cards for next week when Zach gets home and I'm so looking forward to this with him.  I find myself looking forward to a lot these days with my Zach-man.  He's gotta wear shades his future looks so bright!  Oh yea!

See you guys at the CureSearch Walk on Feb. 26th! 

Thursday, December 23, 2010

The Christmas Squirrel

For your own peace of mind, do not leave anything shiny around my child.  He'll snatch it like a thief takes a purse from a little old lady.  I have been searching for my wedding band for over a week now and Zach has sit back and watched me crawl around on the floor checking under the dressers, under the bed, going through my purse and all over the car.  That sly kid had my ring the whole time.  The thought had dawned on me to check his room since he's gotten a penchant for hiding things...thanks Branden and Cameron for showing him some really good hiding spots!  However, I wanted to not jump all over his case and was just thinking I was having a late 20's breakdown of my mind.  Surely I had misplaced the ring.  Right?  Right!? 

That would be a big, fat NO.  While on the phone with at ZTC donor last night, I witnessed my little squirrel as he came in my room and went right to my jewelry box.  He proceeded to rifle through it like a pro and produced a diamond stud.  Wow.  What a pro.  Had the balls to come in and take it right in front of me.  Hmmm.  Got me thinking again about how my ring may be in his room.  I get off the phone and promptly forget about my ring.  This morning while Zach was still sleeping though I suddenly remember and run into his room while he's not there to distract me again.  Sneaky squirrel.  I look under his bed and find all kinds of stuff...no ring though.  Adam checks his closet and finds my tweezers and nail clippers.  Shiny objects.  I'm sitting in the floor wondering where this boy could have put my ring and Adam jumps up and reaches for the piggy bank.  We share a Ahhhha moment and decide to empty it out and check it.  Among Zach's money we find a few paper clips, casino chips and behold...my wedding band.  Lesson learned.  Check the piggy bank first next time.

We also had a visit to Duke this week.  On Monday.  And we're still waiting for results today.  Thursday.  I think my hair is falling out from all the pulling on it I've been doing while I wait for this stupid phone call.  I have been taking this frustration out on presents this morning.  They are taped up real good.  Family is not gonna be happy with me for all this tape.  Oh well.  Better to have less tape at the end of the day than hair.

For the first time, I have taken a few pics of Zach during his routine cancer check.  No scans this time, but tons of other tests to pass the day for us. 

He's passing time in the waiting room by playing.



The fear starts to set in.
He thinks we can't reach him in the corner.  And then contemplates his choices.
                         
This was not fun for him.  The actual blood draw isn't so bad, it's the build up that gets us.  This was his, "I'm glad it's over" face.
Back out to the waiting room.  The blue and green dinosaur made the blood work somewhat worth while to him.  That and coloring.

 Finally in the room to see the doctor and we're going on past 2 hours being here.  I didn't use my Duke brain and didn't pack enough food so we resort to playing games of hide and seek.
 He loves a good game of hide and seek.  Especially when it involves wallowing all over the not-so-clean hospital floor.  This smile is for Mommy as I freak out about germs...

I took these while at Duke by myself and they aren't the greatest, but I wanted to show people that even without scans, these visits aren't easy for kids and parents and that's why we collect toys for kids, like Zach, who are there all day and parents either forgot, or like me, didn't put on their good thinking cap and didn't realize I'd need more toys today.  I hope this shows people what a general day at Duke looks like.  Minus chemo.  Minus sedation.  Minus not eating.  Minus throwing up.  You get the point.  This was actually a great day at Duke, even with my forgetting to pack more food and toys.  An easy day some would say. 

We're waiting for results and while it would be a really great Christmas present for me, but I'm going to take what I've got and just trust that Zach is as good as he looks.  Those results will be negative and he'll still be NED.  However, Santa, if you are reading this, please make Duke call me and tell me that my miracle child is still NED.  It would just make me feel better.  Merry Christmas ya'll.

Thursday, December 9, 2010

Holly's World: Bee-otch

Holly's World: Bee-otch: "So the time has come that Zach has learned one of many words he shouldn't say. Don't ask me why I thought those little ears wouldn't h..."

Bee-otch

So the time has come that Zach has learned one of many words he shouldn't say.  Don't ask me why I thought those little ears wouldn't hear me, but as I'm telling Adam about our experience of having Zach's pictures made and about the lady (Bee-otch, not just plain B*tch) that was taking the pics...Zach decides to listen for once and then repeats the word over and over again.  Then it got interesting.  He started putting it together in a sentence and laughing, as in, "Daddy, you are a Bee-otch!  hahaha!"  hmmm. 

I know as parents first of all I shouldn't have said that word, but second - we shouldn't laugh when he says things like that, but man was it funny.  In my mind, I wasn't thinking about what he was saying, but how he said it.  It was one of the clearest words he's ever said.  On top of that, he used it in a few different sentences and was able to get the sentences correct.  Examples: "You are a bee-otch.", "My Mama said you were a bee-otch." and my personal favorite, "Why are you being a bee-otch?" 

All this from a kid that has been going to speech therapy to help him pronounce words correctly...it seems to be working better than I'd originally thought. 

So far we've put a lid on the word and he knows he isn't supposed to say it again, but you never know when he'll decide to put it to good use in the future.  I'm thinking Walmart or Christmas will be the place he'll decide to use his new word.  Always keeping it interesting at the Leggett Family Christmas! 

Obviously, Zach is doing quite well these days and I couldn't be happier about that.  He helped me make our first ever gingerbread house - you tell me how you think it turned out.

It was pretty until the roof wouldn't stay on since someone kept eating all the icing.

He goes back to Duke on Monday, December 20 for a six month check up.  He'll have lab work, urine tests and a physical.  We've been given a wonderful gift this year - we're far enough out from treatment Zach doesn't have to get a scan this time and doesn't go back to Duke until June 2011.  Merry Christmas to me! 

We're also going to plan on taking toys to Duke that day to make the most of our trip.  The toys Zach's Toy Chest donates are the only toys the Valvano Day Hospital receives.  I am hoping to keep their toy chest stocked again this year.  We'll see! 

Thanks for keeping us in your thoughts and prayers - I truly believe they have gotten us where we are now and will continue to help us in the future.  Merry Christmas!